It is so important to protect your children from the danger of internet especially during their growing time to teenage time. Here are some steps which have been done by parents in protecting their 4 children toward the negative influence of the internet. Hopefully it can be the useful information to depict us as people of Indonesia about how serious the parents in Germany in watching the development of their children regarding to the virtual world.
Childrens Browsing Internet
1. Putting the Computer at Working Room/Private Office
At Büro (working room), there are PC and Laptop which can be used by all members of family who need it, including the childs. It is so prohibited to take the laptop to the children’s bedroom or to parents’ bedroom. By using this regulation, parents can supervise the activity of their children in computer/laptop, even the working room has been equipped by CCTV for 24 hours. What exist in my mind is that about how serious parents in Germany in watching out their children in using the internet even they put CCTV. (Even they move at that extent, what a serious parents!)
2. Making the Regulation
The regulation which is put at working room/private office
“The regulation for internet user” :
- Avoid all illegal materials
- Please don’t click the ads 😀
Hände weg von allem Illegalen (Avoid All Illegal Matters)
As we have explained before, there are some illegal materials in internet:
Download everything from internet
This is the most usual activity that I always do in Indonesia, when there is a song or film that interest us, we can simply download it for free through internet. There are also some sites that provide the most updated files such as 4sared, stafband, mp3rid, gudang lagu, etc.
But in Germany, every downloading activity is prohibited. Either for music file, movie, image, and including all downloading activities are prohibited to do. It is preferable to prohibit the children from downloading the files which have a copy right, because the children are still unable to differentiate which files that attach the copyright or which files do not.
Upload File di Internet
Almost the same with download, upload the file to internet is also risky. Moreover if the file which is uploaded is other’s work. Germany is a country which is so strict regarding on copyright. Someone who has been proven guilty from violating the copyright by disseminating the files into file sharing’s site will be fined by huge amount of money.
In contrast to download, uploading files with copyright status have a bigger risk. Moreover if you use a sharing file’s application such as Torrent, it is highly suggested for you to avoid that!
Since the beginning, the parents in Germany teach their children to respect and appreciate other’s works. To listen to the most updated music or movie, people in Germany usually buy directly the original CD/VCD.
Accessing the sites which contain the pornography
Actually, sex education for all children in Germany is not something taboo anymore. The parents should never feel reluctant in explaining to their children about what is sex, about the fact that the man and woman commit a sexual intercourse to gain the generation/baby, and how the teenagers see the puberty age and the anxiousness. But those cannot be obtained through internet! “Children are prohibited to access the sites which contain pornography because it will only destruct their mental”, said the mother of those 4 children.
Using Social Media
Except oldest children (15 years old), they are not allowed to use social media such as Facebook, Twitter, dll. The reason is because they are still not be able to filter the information which are so many in social media. It can be true that the information is good for them, but it also can be true that the information which are put on social media is not suitable with their age.
Playing the Game
In the case of playing the game, the children can play the game in certain time but it should not be a game that uses internet connection or online game. They can operate the game which has been installed in the computer. There is a case that the children do not obey the regulation and they keep playing the online game. When the mother sees that, the mother punishes the children for 2 weeks to not play the computer and watch the TV. Parents in Germany will never feel reluctant to impose such punishment to their children so that it will give a deterence effect.
- Bitte Nicht auf die Werbung klicken (Please don’t click the ads)
For this second regulation, after the child asks their mom, the mother explains that there are many ads on internet which is trapping the users. The mother explains that even she herself has ever been trapped by the ads which spread on certain website. It will be better if we avoid it, moreover for children, don’t even click the ads.
Indeed, one of the things which is very obnoxious when you access the internet in Germany is that there are too many disturbing ads. Either it is in the form of pop-ups or the automatic ads on new windows but you never require it to appear (I don’t know what type of ads it is).
The experience here is the children that ever clicked the ads with the lure of a game with prizes. When it appears on the screen, it appears with many types of mobile phones and you can simply click wherever spot you need, but in fact it is just a trap to enter their sites. Huh, therefore, you should remind your children not to click the anything in internet.
3. Restrict the access time of using internet
Schedule up the time to access the internet
How old are you ?
Children and teenagers from 7 – 11 years old : 1 hour
Teenager 12 years old: 1 jam 30 menit
Teenager 15 years old: 2 Jam
I think this regulation has been so clear to restrict the children in accessing the internet. Using internet excessively will give a negative effect for your children.
4. Check the browser’s history
Checking the browser history which have been accessed by your children after they use the internet is something compulsory for the mother. This step is very important in supervising the online activities of your children. Even the mother need to remind their children to not delete all the browser history. If you find that your children have dissapeared some site’s histories, you should give them the punishment.
5. Become the friend of your children in Social Media
This point is applied for the oldest child who has been able to use the social media such as Facebook. Fortunately the mother is someone who is “exist” in virtual world, so she can intensively stalk the profile of their children to watch their attitude and activity and that is a good trick. Oftenly the mother criticizes directly the profile picture or the status of their children which herself thinks that the content is not proper.
6. Discuss it with your children
It is very important to discuss about the activities of your child when accessing the internet. It is true that during dinner, the children should explain their activity during a day such as in school, the learning activity in the class, who is the teacher, and etc. It is also applied when the family has a dinner, the children should explain their activities which have been done by them, including the activity in internet.
Here are the steps that have been conducted by Gastmutter in protecting their children from the influence of internet. Therefore, it is very orgent to instill the ethic in accessing the internet, either for friendship activity in social media, even moves to the extent about how to appreciate/respect the copy right of others by not easily upload/download the files in internet.
Hopefully by this information, it can be a full depiction for the parents upon how to protect your children wisely in using the internet.